Am I Teaching Them? - Respect For Their Father and Themselves
Leaving for work is never easy in the morning. I would love nothing more than to just stay in bed and snuggle my crew. But the one thing that makes it possible for me to leave with confidence is the fact that Dane is the one staying home with them. Not everyone needs two incomes so not every dad has the opportunity to stay home with the kids alone. While dan eis still in school we do need the two jobs and we have decided instead of poo-pooing the fact that we both have to work our tails off to make ends meet, we will cherish this time. A time when they have their fort building, steamrolling, tossing and tickling, all-american dad all to themselves two days a week. They get one-on-one time with dad without mom there, and Dane takes that time seriously.
He takes time to talk to Monty about important things like monster trucks and helicopters, they go searching for trains and rocks. He's teaching Monty that he should always kiss and open doors for his mama. He is completely wrapped around Rosie's finger and reads her books constantly. I get totally overwhelmed when I think of how lucky we are to have him.
Being a mother has been such an incredible blessing, it is wonderful and exhausting all at the same time. For very good reasons, motherhood and the goodness of mothers is plastered everywhere but I feel like fatherhood is often the less talked about role. I hope I am showing Monty and Rosie how much I appreciate and love Dane not only as a husband but as their father.
I read an article recently that really hit me hard and made me re-think how I talk to Dane on a daily basis. I said, "Based on how you treated your husband today, what did you teach your son to look for in a wife?" What am I teaching Monty and Rosie by the way I speak to Dane and about him to them?
Look, I'm not saying that I am horrible and mean and I'm also not claiming to be perfect at all. Dane and I are married and we are a normal couple. We get in tiffs and disagree (often) but we also are still sweet on each other. But it's easy to get casual with how we talk and treat each other.
This little quote is such a good reminder for me as a mother and wife. I hope Monty can look at Dane's and my relationship and know that when he gets to the point of finding a spouse, that not only should he be good to his lady and treat her with respect but that should also be respected, loved and treated with kindness. I pray I can show him in my everyday actions how much I care for his dear old dad.